Dear Jeb,
I would much rather give my daughter to Jeb Fregm than I would give her to Mel Lockhart when he was your age. I have every confidence that the same God who has been faithful in disciplining me and loving me as a son, has been and will continue to do the same in and for my new son – Jeb.
That God has been gracious in bringing you two to each other, I have no doubt. That God has been at work in your life in the same gracious way that He has Kylies, I have no doubt. Kylie has never belonged to me, but she has been my responsibility before God. I willingly give her now to you to love as Christ has loved you.
Now, you can go buy some books on marriage, you can download some marriage sermons, you can make a fresh start with some new resolutions each time you fail, or you can look to Jesus the author and finisher of your faith. You can try again tomorrow, or you can trust Him now. You can plan to be a better husband or you can pray (which is simply yielding your will to God). Christ is the faithful one and He did not leave us comfortless. He did not leave us alone. Do not quench His Spirit. Christ is your wisdom, righteousness, and sanctification. God is not sitting back like an angry father with his arms crossed, and a scowl on His face watching your performance to see how you will do. He has given His own Son and as you heard and believed His Word of promise, He has also given you a down-payment on your inheritance – His own Spirit indwelling you. Believe these simple promises. Obey His Spirit in everything. He will guide you into all truth.
I leave my sweet Kylie with you now. She will love you as you love her as Christ has loved you and has given Himself for you. Let His gift of grace be your constant motivation. Jesus said: “he who believes in me...from his innermost being will flow rivers of living water.” You will be a constant refreshment to your wife as you are refreshed by Jesus.
I am so grateful for God's gift of Jeb to Kylie.
Love,
Your proud and thankful Father In Law.